With 17 weeks to go until my wedding, 'Love' has quite literally taken over! For the past 8 months, my life (and my fiance's) has been consumed with organizing and planning our perfect wedding day celebration. As the time gets closer it has become more and more difficult to keep up with my other interests and hobbies such as baking, cooking, blogging, hiking, photography, crafting etc.....I often wonder how different my life will be again when our wedding is past?. Don't get me wrong, I have absolutely loved the process of planning our big day but I am also looking forward to getting back to normality and having time on my hands again to live life to the full and not constantly be replying to emails or pinning things on Pinterest! Yes. It will be lovely, but until then I am going to enjoy every single minute....after all, you only get to do this once!
Throughout the whole process I have tried my best to stay cool, calm and collected....and I think I have done quite a good job at that. I have found that there are certain things that have helped me through and if I were to share my advice with other blushing brides to be, this is what i'd say:
1. Remember it is your day, no one elses. Have enough strength to say what you and your partner want and don't want. Not everyone will like the same things you do, but that is OK. Your wedding should be a reflection of your personalities as a couple.
2. BLOW YOUR BUDGET! (well to a certain extent)...I don't mean go out and over spend by £30,000 but I do think it is important not to be so hung up on sticking to a budget. As long as you are flexible and have time to look for the best deals then I definitely think there are ways to save in some areas and not so much in other areas. So...if you want a photographer @ £2000 then only spend £100 on a cake. Prioritize what is important to you and the budget seems to fall into place. Blow your money on some things and save on others!
3. Communicate with your partner. This one is crucial I think. Some people forget about the importance of the marriage and get so caught up in the day. Stay connected with your partner throughout and take time to plan activities together, go on dates and keep that flame alive!
4. Take time for yourself: pamper yourself, go for long walks, eat healthily, hang out with friends, go shopping...whatever it is that you do to de-stress. This is an essential part of keeping you mind healthy and active. How can you possibly plan a wedding if you don't have a clear head?
5. DELEGATE. This one is my favorite. Don't be afraid to allow people in your life to help out and take on some jobs for you. You will be surprised at how helpful and eager people can be. It makes you feel blessed to have people on board that actually care about helping you out.
6. Reflect/ write it down....and by this I don't just mean write a 'To- Do List' (that is a MUST) I mean take time to think about things, don't race ahead. Reflect on the importance of your day, think about your life after the wedding - how much fun you and your partner will have when you are actually husband and wife and continually remind yourself that it is just a celebration of love (or the words I use: IT IS JUST A BIG PARTY). No one cares what colour your bridesmaids are, that your cake was bought from M&S or that you handmade your own stationary. People just want to see you happy together and really do just want the best for you both, not only on your wedding day but for the rest of your lives.
To conclude, yes 'Love' can quite literally take over. It is ok not to have time to write a blog, bake cakes or take your camera out on big long walks. You only get to do this once so make the most of it, these things can wait until after the wedding, after the honeymoon even but if you can seem to fit it in (like I have done today by writing this) then that is great too! Enjoy, stay chilled and remember....it is only a wedding. The marriage will be the fun part! xxx
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